How was your day at school? REALLY?
Children can be difficult to read sometimes. When your child comes home from school and you ask them how their day was, a typical response might be “good” or “fun” or “fine” (kids are not the most forthcoming with information!). Their teacher, on the other hand, may report that your child is Actually struggling in some areas, or lacking in enthusiasm in class – and this may come as a surprise to you.
You might find your child trying to avoid doing their homework, or that they are a bit over-emotional at home for no apparent reason. This all stems from a lack of belief in themselves that they CAN do it, they can succeed in school and they are as worthy as their peers. Somewhere along the way, children can become confused by concepts taught in school and it’s easy to lose their way for a while. If caught early, the simple solution is to give your child more clarification and practice at home in that tricky area before it leads to big gaps in their learning.
Clarification and practice lead to self-belief and eagerness to learn. Every child wants to find things straightforward, so the best solution is to nip any confusion in the bud and help them overcome the problem with a worksheet or activity book at home – and some extra clarification from you as their parent.
One might say “but it’s the teacher’s job to help them understand if they are confused in class”. Yes, it is, and the teacher will almost certainly offer some additional explanation in lessons if they think your child is struggling. At the same time, every teacher would agree that parents who work with their children at home in a patient, enjoyable way – supporting or supplementing the school’s curriculum – are greatly benefiting their children and increasing their self-esteem and performance in school.
So – if you’re not quite sure how your child is doing in school – next time you ask them “How was your day” and they give you a one-word answer, ask how it REALLY was and whether you can help with anything they are finding a bit tricky. Keep in close contact with your child’s teacher because working in partnership produces happy, confident, enthusiastic children both at home and in school.